things i want to remember since my last updates.

1. my bf bought me a smartphone, S3
2. i finished reading a novel titled Falling Leaves by Adeline Yen Mah. talks about an unwanted Chinese girl in her family, and her conflict with her cold and malicious stepmother, siblings and her pursuit to get his father's acknowledgement.
3. my pointer dropped. of course i was sad but in a bright side, i am happy that some friends has improved and come to me to say thank for helping them.
4. i begin my exercise routine.
5. i begin to treat Eng better than before. though sometimes she can still be annoying. i will keep remind myself to be as kind as possible. and today i get angry because of her for annoyingly call me "kakak", which i really dont like because my friends are mocking me for that. and maybe, the people around me really play a big role to determine how i will treat her. so, what's the best is, i need to stop mock her, critics her, talks at her back and not to listen to any bad comments about her from others.
6. i am also very grateful to have Aru to sit next to me, to stay near to my room, most importantly, to be able to comfortably discuss many things with her. a very productive discussion. :)

I lost in my argument

Today, I got this very huge urge to write about my lost today.

it's all started during our EDU (classroom management) class. our lecturer, Mr. Augustine gave a statement regarding parents, nowadays disagree on the punishment which is carried out in school by the teachers. and he asked some of us to give opinion.

when Farid was talking, i was actually didnt pay attention to him bcoz, i too have something in mind. so i told my friend who sits next to me, Zela about my opinion. 

just before i volunteered to speak out, Nelly was called out. and she said something about, parents should be understanding of the teachers' decision in implementing punishment. then, i raised my hand. quite nervous, i can feel my heartbeat running very fast. stomping like it almost come out of my chest.  my voice was trembling, and my mind didnt work well, my idea was not correctly worded. and most importantly, the elaboration i gave condemned me. 

my view is that, in order for the teacher to manage the classroom well and to make the punishment we want to implement in the classroom is not disputable among the parents, it is imperative that we must consult the parents face to face to inform them of the way we are going to handle our classroom. Get the parents' permission and opinion on it. if the parents do not agree, well, I'm afraid the student cannot be in the respective teacher's class, or in a more rational way, the parents themselves come up with some proposal on how to tackle any undesired behaviour from their children. the main point was to consult the parents about our way of handling the class.

However, the worst mistake i did is when i elaborated my point. i made a negligent comment when i said not to punish the students whose parents do not agree to the terms and conditions of a teacher has made. when actually i dont really meant it. which now only i realise it is impossible for a teacher to do. uuurrrgghhh~!! stupid!
and my friends was so eager to dismiss my point that i can't hear any of their comments clearly. so, i asked one of them to tell alone and that was Farid. he said if the teacher do so, not to punish the students whose parents do not agree to the terms and condition of a teacher made, other students will feel they are treated unfairly. and he is the most right. others' comments, are almost the same,perhaps, but i cant remember because i can't focus to so many comments. (i'm not a multitask freak. hee.. )

and then Amerzan come up with his idea to use psychology instead of punish them physically and i am completely agree on it. but something come up to me. how a teacher supposed to know what types of psychology mind-game can be applied to every problematic behaviour? if the teacher do not know how to play with children's mind, then he or she can't handle their class? however, maybe, after a long time, teacher can develop this psychology skill after going through a lot of experience. perhaps. maybe yes, maybe no. and in the end, punishment is still the way to overcome problematic behaviour. :)

towards the end, Mr.Augustine conclude that it is important to get students' consensus when setting the class rules and make them aware of the consequences for compliance and non-compliance complement to the Assertive Discipline Model by Lee and Marlene Canter.

for future reference, this is what assertive Discipline Model talks about.:

the teacher needs to:

clearly and firmly communicates needs and requirements to students, 

follows the expression of these needs and requirements with appropriate actions

responds to students in ways that maximize compliance.

do not violates the best interests of the students.

Application: 

§Dismiss the thought that there is any acceptable reason for misbehavior

§Decide rules to implement in your classroom.

§Determine negative consequences for non-compliance

§Determine positive consequences for appropriate behavior.

§List the rules on the board along with the positive and negative consequences.

§Have the students write the rules and take them home to be signed by the parents and returned.